Hormones Making the Decisions

When I was working as a sacred prostitute, I read a very useful book called “The Alchemy of Love and Lust”. It’s about sex hormones and how they shape your feelings.

Oxytocin is a powerful hormone. It is secreted at orgasm, and in massive quantities when a woman is giving birth. Its psychological effect is to create bonding – a very positive thing as far as evolution goes.

The problem is, sometimes we get bonded to people that we have no business bonding with, just because oxytocin is directing the show. I remember one session with a client who was a lot of fun. We were lying together quietly in each other’s arms, after having a really good time with each other. He was fun, good-looking, and we had great chemistry with each other. Sometimes my work was not much like work!

As we lay there, I started thinking about asking him to end our client relationship and start a lover/dating relationship.

Then I said to myself, “No, this is oxytocin talking. I’ll wait three days, and if I still want to do this, I’ll call him them.”

In three days, I had forgotten all about him.

Let's Just Have Fun!

I had a dramatic example the other day of how my attitude shapes my reality. Adam called me after a long absence from my life, well, long to me anyway. I wasn’t expecting that he would call me ever again. We agreed to get together to talk, and I found myself dreading the time. I just knew that it would be hard and that there would be a lot of processing.

I was talking to a friend a few hours before Adam was scheduled to arrive, and he had a great suggestion. “Why don’t you focus upon what you want instead of how hard it’s going to be?”

I started thinking – what do I want? I want to have fun, to laugh, to have a lot of orgasms. As I thought about that, I felt my energy lighten up. I started smiling.

When Adam called, I said to him, “Let’s just have fun, ok?” He agreed.

We still talked about the issues we have, but we did it in a very light-hearted way. We ended up feeling closer than we had in a long time.

I don’t know where it is going with him, but I do know that I want to keep having fun!

Sexual Opening For Women

I am grateful for all the experience with men that I have had over the years. It has given me a wealth of information to share with others who may not have had such an extensive dive into the world of male sexuality.

Some of the work I do now is with women, helping them to open and to come into their sexuality in a way that is much more free and flowing. While these women may never become sacred prostitutes themselves, they benefit from my experiences in that realm.

While I already offer individual online sessions, I am developing an online program to reach women everywhere who want to become more free. I am beginning with working with body image, since so many women feel that their bodies are flawed, and this lack of confidence in their physical beauty can create a shut-down in sexual energy. In this segment I am teaching how to inhabit the body from the inside out, bringing the inner beauty of the goddess into physical form.

I’ll keep you posted about this as it develops!

Orgasm is a Path to Enlightenment

One of my spiritual teachers once told me that orgasm is a valid path to enlightenment. The glimpse of “light” that we experience at the point of orgasm is a momentary impression of the state of enlightenment. No wonder people cry “Oh, god!” when they come!

In my work with Tantra, I’ve learned to extend orgasm for a long time – sometimes up to an hour or more. Being in orgasmic energy for that long expands the glimpse of enlightenment, so you can have a more extensive experience of that state.

Isn’t it great to have a spiritual path that is so much fun?