Venus and Mars Across the Ocean

I reconnected with Adam in the last few weeks, as well as beginning a connection with Ted. Aphrodite has been busy!

Adam is now in Thailand for the next few weeks. Just before he left, we had a deep and loving evening together. During that time, I received a vision about what our connection is about right now, on a transpersonal level.

First, some astrological background. His Venus is conjunct my Mars, and Pluto in the sky is transiting both of them. What this means is that he is carrying the feminine energy (Venus) and I am carrying the male energy (Mars). The conjunction creates a lot of attraction between us. It’s new for him to be in the feminine, and it’s new for me to be in the masculine. Pluto, the planet of transformation, is asking us to transform our old ways and open up to something new.

In this vision, I realized that our connection was about healing the rift between the masculine and the feminine. He was about to go off to a very feminine place – Thailand is soft and yielding. I am here on the west coast of the US, across the Pacific from him, holding the energy in a culture that is extremely masculine. As we maintain the connection between us, we reconnect the sacred masculine and the sacred feminine.

Aphrodite's Consort

It’s looking like my relationship with Adam is not going to work out after all. While I’m very grateful for the sexual healing he brought me, it has become clear that we want different things. He wants a full-time relationship, and what I really want is a consort.

“What’s a consort?” you might ask. Most people do when I talk about this. A consort is someone with whom I can have mystical, magical, healing sex. Sex that creates more light upon this planet that is so in need. Sex that brings us both closer to God. Transpersonal sex – done in the context of ritual and in sacred space.

You don’t discuss the laundry with a consort. You don’t watch TV together. You don’t live together and blend your mundane lives. I’m quite happy living on my own. I like my independence. I just would like a consort to come visit from time to time, and leave me in a limp puddle with a smile on my face. A smile that is directed towards him, and also towards God. Is that too much to ask?

Aphrodite doesn’t think so.

Aphrodite

Jean Shinoda Bolen wrote a wonderful book called Goddesses in Everywoman. In it, she describes several goddess archetypes and the energies that they carry. We each embody some of these more than others. I related to Aphrodite the most.

Aphrodite is unique among goddesses. She is not virginal, like Athena or Artemis, yet she is not defined by her relationships like Hera or Demeter. She is sexual, independent, sensual and free.

Aphrodite loves intensity, and so do I. In my book, I describe the end of my second marriage. It basically died from boredom; I needed more excitement.

Even though Aphrodite takes lovers when she wants to, she is not promiscuous. She is very choosy about who she connects with. That describes me as well, especially lately. I did have quite a promiscuous time when I was younger! I’ve never had a relationship that was completely monogamous, although I have had phases where I chose to connect only with one person for a time.

Bolen made the point that it is hard to be an Aphrodite in this culture, where women’s sexuality is supposed to be owned by men. I’ve gotten used to disapproval, and luckily they don’t stone women for adultery in this particular time and place!